I haven’t talked much about my health and wellness coaching lately because, well, I haven’t been doing it much. While I did absolutely love it and hope to really pick it back up in the future, I just don’t have time right now. School, work, interning, and my family is taking up all of my time. I haven’t been seeking out clients and haven’t really made myself too noticeable on social media lately.
I do have a handful of clients though and I love working with them! Like, really love working with them. I have definitely connected very well with one of my clients and I get so excited seeing her progress! I check in with her almost daily (although, our challenge group was going on so a lot of my check ins were in the challenge group, rather than via text or FB message).
I follow a lot of other fitness coaches too on Instagram and Facebook and I’ve realized what type of coach I don’t want to be.
Do you ever read the captions that go something like, “I really didn’t feel like working out today, but I still pushed play! 30 minutes later and I’m done! Push yourself! This is what changes are made of.” Great message, right? But come on. Rest days are GREAT for you. And it’s about balance. I wake up and don’t want to work out and you know what? I don’t. I take the day off until I feel ready.
My client texted me that she hadn’t worked out all weekend but was sticking to her meal plan, but she was in a funk and just felt off. Can you imagine if she had been looking at my Instagram every day and saw me posting statuses about how you have to push yourself and that’s how you make progress and blah blah blah? When you’re already feeling like you’re failing, does it ever help to see how accomplished other people are?
Instead, I told her that she has done great so far and I was proud of what an awesome job she has done. Everybody hits a wall sometimes and there is absolutely no need to get down on yourself about it. I am coaching because I want people to be healthy for the rest of their lives. Not for a 21 day challenge. Not for a few months.
I want their mindset to change. I want them to see that a few rest days or weeks or gaining a few pounds here and there or eating an entire cake is really nothing to stress. I want them to know that if they fall of the wagon, they can just get back on it. It’s not about pushing play every day. It’s not about choosing the broccoli over the cake every day. It’s about knowing your worth, making an effort to eat a wide variety of healthy foods, and to move your body most of the time.
I went through an entire year after having Jackson where I barely worked out and I ate terribly. I still classified myself as a healthy person overall. I knew it was temporary. I understand that my clients have jobs, babies, husbands, LIVES. My most recent client told me that she does great for a little while with working out but gets depressed when she misses a day. Why?! I miss days all of the time! The difference between me and them is that I have spent years working on this mindset. I’ve never had an (emotionally) unhealthy relationship with the gym, food, or my weight, but I also haven’t valued health in the same way that I do now. I accept off days and they don’t affect me (except for injuries- those are just frustrating). I just keep on keeping on and I am 100% confident that barring any major medical issues, I will be active and eat well until the day that I die.
My client who texted me about her funk was very appreciative that I was realistic with her. She told me she needed to hear my response and that made me feel good. Because I can help somebody. I remember telling Jon how little I make from one client who only buys workout videos, but they are my client for a year. I wondered if I’d get in over my head by only selling the videos. But I reminded myself that to me, this isn’t about the money. I did this because I want to connect with people and that is what I’m doing. I absolutely love the connections I’ve made and becoming a coach has been completely worth it to me.
So, I don’t ever want to be the coach that tries to sell a false sense of motivation. I’m not motivated all the time. I do still work out when I don’t want to. Trust me, I do it a ton. I also genuinely love working out most days though. But I’m not going to act like I push play all the time or make excuses about why I needed to rest. I may tell a reason why I skipped a gym session, but I won’t have an ounce of remorse for it. I don’t live my life to work out. I work out so that I can live my life to the fullest.